Magic Mike Who?

Perusing Pinterest today, I came across this photograph…

Do you know who this is?

Look again…

Know now?

Okay, I’ll tell you.

John Wayne.


I was shocked. I mean, I love The Duke as much as the next classic film lover, but I had NO idea that The Duke used to look like this. No wonder he went to Hollywood.

Sharing the photograph on Facebook, I wrote ‘”Magic Mike” needs to take a cue from this guy. Handsome speaks for itself, and dignity never goes out of style!!’

That, coupled with this article I read today, got me to thinking…

Aside from the basic moral wrongs of the hit film “Magic Mike”,Β and regardless of the glaringly obvious double standard found in its popularity (can you imagine Christian men on Facebook making enthusiastic status updates about seeing “Striptease” with all their married Christian buddies at the local theater?! God, forbid! The claws would come OUT), I’ve got a beef with this recent “harmless” avenue of entertainment.

I’m sure on a base level, Channing Tatum’s gyrating hips could get a woman riled up, as could the vulgar dance moves of Matthew McConaughey, especially if that woman is with a group of hooting and hollering female friends who make her feel like what she is viewing is harmless. I get it.

But make no mistake…

“Magic Mike” is no harmless film.

Entertainment like this cheapens true masculinity, and paints a deceptive picture of what women should get excited about in men.

So if you’ll indulge me, I would love to help remind my female sisters what “sexy” and “manly”Β really looks like…

A man who communes with his Creator daily and strives to live a life that glorifies God.

A man who works long hours and spends his hard-earned wages to care for his family and occasionally treat them to fun things like Cherry Limeades and Redbox rentals.

A man who reaches down to pick up his little girl when she trips and falls and holds her close until her tears are gone.

A man who gathers his children around him at night to tell them a story, no matter how late he got in from work.

A man who would never go see a movie about a group of female strippers, no matter how many people were saying it was okay.

A man who researches recipes on the internet and makes a huge and messy meal in the kitchen so his beloved doesn’t have to make supper one night.

A man who treats the elderly with respect and dignity by patiently listening to them tell stories about their glory days.

A man who tends to the azalea bushes by the front porch, clipping them down when they need it and watering them morning after morning after morning.

A man who hops up from his reading when he hears you doing the dishes and gives you a hand.

A man who thoughtfully answers every question his little boy has about “why?” and “how?” the world and everything in it works.

A man who leaves whatever he is doing to help you when your car breaks down.

A man who monitors his free time and plans his schedule wisely and fairly. If he gets a night out with his friends, you get one, too.

A man who gets up at night to fix the baby a bottle while you lay drooling on your pillow.

A man who gives up an unneeded PhD so he can spend more time with his family.

A man who comes home with the new book you’ve been wanting, and its not even your birthday.

A man who has trained his eyes to look away from other women, even when they look better than you do.

A man who is humble enough to grow, long after he has become an adult.

A man who wants you and finds his satisfaction in you, and you alone, after many years of marriage and fidelity.

A man with happy wrinkles around his eyes that prove how many times he has smiled at you.

A man who sets up controls on his computer to avoid even the temptation to look at pornography.

A man who has dignity and modesty and self-control.

A man who refuses to speak profanity and hushes others when they use it in your vicinity.

A man who would give his life for you and the children, in a heartbeat.

A man who says “I do”…for better or for worse…for richer or poorer…in sickness and in health…forever.

Men like this don’t exist, you say?

Oh yes, they do.

My husband and little girl, before their first Daddy Daughter Date Night.

My Daddy, napping with my daughter on the back porch after a long, hot day at work.

My father-in-law, Mike, one of the most kind and gentle men I’ve ever known, who loves his family likes he loves his life.

My brother, Jerry, investing in his daughter by coaching her softball team for the 3rd year in a row.

Our friend, Zac, walking and having a deep and intentional talk with our son, Gideon.

Our friend, Ben, who moved across the country to marry the love of his life.

My brother, Pete, playing on the floor in a cardboard box with his son, Brett.

My friend, Kenneth, a World War II vet who has been married to his lovely wife for 65 years this month.

my brother-in-law, Todd, with his wife and baby girl. He might be the baby of the family, but he has grown into a fine man, husband and father.

My husband and our friend, Joe, cooking a Chinese supper for me and Joe’s wife, Kara. Both of them had been working all day long.

Our friend, Brian, moved his family to our tiny town so they could be a part of our church. His job is nearly an hour away.

Our friend, Bird, pushing his daughter, Izzy, on the swing on his day off. When this man isn’t working for his family, he is LIVING for them.

Our friend, Frank, loves the Lord and the ones God has entrusted to him with unwavering faithfulness.

My oldest brother, Matt (the one in the middle – who always hides from my camera!) is an amazing husband and son, and a true man of God.

And seriously, that’s just off the top of my head, and easily accessible in my last 6 months of pictures. My church and my family are full of men who work hard, who love deeply, and who serve God faithfully. They define masculinity and dignity…

and they make Magic Mike and all his buddies look like total dweebs.

“But I don’t know any men like this!” you say?

Well that’s what this guy is for.

He reportedly made 250 movies…

and not a one of them is about a male stripper named Mike.


If you are wondering why new comments are not going through,Β PLEASE take a moment to read my follow-up post to this article. Thank you so very much!

110 thoughts on “Magic Mike Who?

  1. ahhh, you just became one of my favorite people! thank you for this post. it is SOOOO sad to me that so many Christian women are raving about this movie…and a certain book series that i won’t reference here…i feel very burdened by it. i wish they could all experience the true form of masculinity. i feel that if they did, not only would they not go see these movies/read these books…but they would have no desire to!

    • I agree completely. It also saddens me that many (outside the church) would look at my life and think I am just “lucky” or a specific type of person who gets blessed in these ways…never realizing that a Bible-believing-and-teaching church is where these redeemed men are found.
      I suppose I would tell a young lady who is disappointed in her prospects and thinks all men are jerks that she should begin to seek God and follow hard after Him – she might be surprised by the godly male friends and protectors (and potential suitors, maybe!) that God would bless her with on her journey.
      But most of all, she would find that life and life abundant truly is found in Jesus Christ. I’m praying for many tonight…
      And by the way, I’m so encouraged by you and your Mister. πŸ™‚
      Thank you SO much for taking the time to share this comment – much love!

    • Such a blessing – when I got married 7 years ago, I had NO idea the sanctification and the joy that was ahead. God has been so good.
      Thanks for visiting my site, and taking time to share your thoughts.

  2. The Big Trail, from 1930. That is where the photo is from I think. My grandfather was a huge John Wayne fan πŸ™‚

  3. Thank you for this beautiful tribute. I’ve made it a point to bite my tongue, because I didn’t want to offend; but you did a wonderful job pointing out what was wrong with this picture in an non-demeaning way.

  4. You made me take another look at myself and my witness. My 21 year old married daughter sent me your blog. I am so very proud of the wife that she is for her husband. He is truly an awesome man of God and she shows him the same respect. I told her she was a better role model for me than I have been for her. She has taken a lot of grief over the years for being such a strong Christian…. I am so proud of her AND thankful for people like you she turn to out in the world for strength in her beliefs.

    Keeping the Faith

    Yvonne Spitek

    • My sweet sister, your comment really touched my heart. The great thing about being a child of God is that we never stop growing and learning. I thank Him for your tender heart and pray that He continues His work in your life.
      Thank you so much for taking the time to share your thoughts – it gave me such a boost!

  5. Beautifully spoken! Thank you for putting into words what so many of us have been feeling. I was blessed to grow up with a Daddy that’s a Godly man. I have been married to a Godly man for almost 18 years. My older brother and several uncles as well as a Grandfather have been wonderful examples of Godly character for my son, (and daughters).

    • It is astounding, isn’t it, to be so surrounded by strong, godly men? I can’t thank God enough for the gift, and pray, through God’s grace, that the church will continue to raise up men of character and dignity.

  6. “There is only one lawgiver and judge, he who is able to save and to destroy. But who are you to judge your neighbor?”
    James 4:12

    • There certainly is a problem with judgement within Christianity (as there is within any belief system); however, the author of this piece is NOT engaging in judgement. She’s not speaking crassly about those who see that movie, she’s not saying people who see this movie are going to hell, she’s not advocating harshness.

      Rather, she’s encouraging her fellow sisters in Christ to carefully judge their motives. She’s thoughtfully lauding the actions of true men. She’s looking at the problems with casually engaging in modern culture without realizing the problems with it.

      To the author of this comment, scripture out of context is fairly useless in a setting like this. As my theology prof would say, “a text without a context is a pretext for a prooftext.” Be careful taking a scripture like the one above and making it say what you want it to.

    • God will judge the world, including me, who, by His grace, has been redeemed by the blood of Jesus Christ.

      But as a follower of Jesus now, I am commanded in Scripture to hold my brothers and sisters in the faith accountable, in love. That’s all I’m doing here, I promise. We are to sharpen one another, like iron sharpening iron. I can’t tell you how many times I have needed the words of another believer to set my feet back on the right path. To remain silent in these cases is actually unloving, difficult as it is for our hearts to grasp that.

      But mostly, I’m just thanking God for His sweet grace and unmerited favor!

      I hope He blesses you, richly.

  7. I don’t believe that this was spoken in “judgement” but in love. We live in a world that attempts and very successfully tries to make sin seem fine as long as it is in a storyline, a movie, music etc. With so many families that struggle with pornography and the damage it does for generations, I find it hard to believe that just because this is geared toward women that we find it ok to go watch. Be careful little eyes what you see comes to mind. Much love!

    • Thank you for this – your comment actually came to mind several times today as I evaluated the music and entertainment I’ve allowed into my home.
      I must admit, I was convicted by some of it!
      Much love to you, as well – and thanks again!

  8. Reblogged this on quillswife and commented:
    I have to agree with this 100%. I love my husband dearly and I would never watch this movie. I think this wife and mother has summed it all up perfectly and she used John Wayne, who is my husband’s favorite actor of all time by the way. Awesome!

    • Thank you so much! I love that there are so many John Wayne fans who like this post…I was afraid to use such a dearly loved celebrity on my site, afraid I would offend the masses. πŸ™‚
      Thanks for reblogging, and for your sweet words.

  9. I love the way that you wrote this. I agree that it appears that there has been a double standard going on. I have had absolutely no desire to see Magic Mike, and even the commercials for it have been annoying me. There are a few John Wayne movies that I like that he defines what a man is…The Quiet Man, and McClinktock! Both are excellent movies, in which I feel we don’t have nearly the same quality much anymore. What happened to classic love stories? What happened to that classic gentleman from those days? They are still there, but movies like Magic Mike sets it far back.

    • McClintock! is my favorite!!!
      And The Quiet Man sits in our entertainment stand, shaming me often that I have never taken the time to watch it.
      Perhaps now is the time. πŸ™‚
      Thank you so much for your comment.

  10. Mrs. Gore… thank you so much for a very thought out response to “Magic Mike” …. I would like to say that your husband looks very simular to the very young John Wayne….. look at the top of your page….. John Wayne on the left and a picture of your husband on the right….. it is sweet.

    • Oh dear! There will be NO living with him once I share your comment!! He’s going to absolutely love that. I wonder where I can find him an outfit like John Wayne’s?…

  11. Oh do I love this!! LOL!! Thanks for letting me in on the “Magic Mike” hype, because I didn’t know what it was about. I saw a couple post by friends on FB, but had no interest in looking up the movie website. I’m glad I didn’t.

      • I had actually considered looking it up, because sooo many ladies were talking about it . . . but I feared for what my children might see. And what *I* might see!
        I’m sharing your blog on Facebook. Can’t wait to read more!

  12. Well, I’m probably going to get a lot of flak for this, but I’m in my late 40s and I went and saw Magic Mike with the expectation of silly, stupid humor, which I indulge in on occasion, I admit. What it was in reality (besides the funny parts) was a spotlight on how empty that lifestyle is and how it leaves a man wanting more of the simpler, more honorable, lasting things in life. Yes, sex sells, but it doesn’t give a person meaning and purpose like the attributes you describe in your well-written article, and I feel this was the underlying truth in the movie. It did not make me want to go out and watch male strippers in person; in fact, I would be extremely uncomfortable doing that. I did not lust after the men dancing. I came to laugh and be silly and ended up feeling the same as I did when I entered the theater: that Biblical teachings, family values and mores are what matter most in this life. But I am a human being, and I like entertainment and (God forbid?) men dancing, and even women dancing for that matter (all kinds of dance). It doesn’t define my life or my outlook. I realize some younger viewers might be affected differently. Thanks for reading.

    • Thank you so much for sharing your opinion in such a kind way. I appreciate both your tone and your honesty…

      My problem is that the motivation for many women to go see that movie was not one that valued comedy or good entertainment, or even hopes for a good moral by the movie’s end…

      and so this is just a call to those who need it to guard against lust of the flesh and lust of the eyes, that will not only harm us, but our men. When they see Christian women flocking to the theater, the message we are putting out there is that “good and godly” is not what we’re wanting, after all.

      Again, I can’t imagine how I would feel if my husband saw such a movie, even if the stripper had a heart of gold.


    • Laura, the same thing could be said for many movies, what makes the difference here is that the story is not what was highlighted in the trailer. While the story may have some redemptive value, It’s still billed as a movie where you can see all these young men barely dressed. How would you feel if you had a husband or a son who bought a copy of the Sports Illustrated Swimsuit issue just because they wanted to see the ad for a new BMW that’s supposed to be in that magazine? Furthermore, how would it make you feel if he bought that and then advertised the fact on Facebook? You would probably feel pretty rotten! You would also feel as if he had betrayed you in the worst way possible. You see, Lust is lust is lust is lust. No matter who does it or whatever justification is used. God still considers that act of lust to be equivalent to adultery. We (both men and women) have to guard our eyes and our hearts from that kind of stuff. It damages marriages and breaks apart homes.

  13. And a real man takes it upon himself to leave the theater during the anticipated nude scene in The Titanic out of respect for his wife. And later joins her when the scene is well over. I was blown away!

  14. In tears here!! So thankful that the man you described is a man I said “I do” over 11 years ago. So many wonderful, rich qualities.

  15. Excellent, thoughtful post. I wanted to write a post about this, but you’ve said it better than I could. Sad that women set the bar so low that any man off the street could meet their standards. God desires us men to rise up to a much higher standard.

  16. I think Brooke might need to read all of James 4 instead of just typing “judge” into a search bar to use it to support not speaking against sin. James 4 also says:

    What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? 2 You desire but do not have, so you kill. You covet but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God. 3 When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures.

    4 You adulterous people,[a] don’t you know that friendship with the world means enmity against God? Therefore, anyone who chooses to be a friend of the world becomes an enemy of God. 5 Or do you think Scripture says without reason that he jealously longs for the spirit he has caused to dwell in us[b]? 6 But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says:

    β€œGod opposes the proud
    but shows favor to the humble.”[c]

    7 Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. 8 Come near to God and he will come near to you. Wash your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded. 9 Grieve, mourn and wail. Change your laughter to mourning and your joy to gloom. 10 Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up.

    11 Brothers and sisters, do not slander one another. Anyone who speaks against a brother or sister[d] or judges them speaks against the law and judges it. When you judge the law, you are not keeping it, but sitting in judgment on it. 12 There is only one Lawgiver and Judge, the one who is able to save and destroy. But youβ€”who are you to judge your neighbor? ”

    I think it supports what you have written rather than speaks against it.
    Speak on. Share Truth and the truth. May the Lord Jesus richly bless you.

  17. I cannot thank you enough for writing this! So many of my friends were going to see this movie and I couldn’t believe that they were convincing themselves that it was okay. We can be so deceived by ourselves! I appreciate your honesty and your desire for people to live lives that give glory to God! Keep loving, seeking and serving the Lord!

    • Thank you!
      My heart hurts for my sisters who saw this movie, and some who may have seen it and then read this and felt the prick of conviction, for I KNOW how easy it is to be swept up in the hype. If I was in a different situation, at a different time in my life, I very likely would have seen the movie, and then lived to regret it.
      But the Christian journey is one of sanctification, one that grows and changes one step at a time.
      Thank you for your very sweet words – they cheered my soul!

  18. No need to write my own thoughts on this controversial topic when you stated so eloquently what we all are thinking. Thanks to all the men you listed and many more for showing us all dignity and masculinity are a match!

    • Wow! I had no idea how controversial until this week! πŸ™‚ I usually blog away with just my little group of people faithfully reading…until I mentioned “Magic Mike”. Or maybe it was John Wayne that did it… πŸ™‚

      Thanks for sharing!

  19. Re: James 4:12
    Mrs. Gore never attacked or judged or condemned an individual; rather she made a case against a movie.

    Anyhow, verses like James 4:12 must be balanced with the rest of Scripture, like 1 Cor.5:11-13:
    “11 But now I am writing to you not to associate with anyone who bears the name of brother if he is guilty of sexual immorality or greed, or is an idolater, reviler, drunkard, or swindler–not even to eat with such a one. 12 For what have I to do with judging outsiders? Is it not those inside the church whom you are to judge? 13 God judges those outside. ‘Purge the evil person from among you.'”
    1 Cor 5:11-13

    Clearly, Paul is teaching that we must judge. He’s even using the same Greek word!

    So, what’s happening? James says, “Don’t judge,” Paul says, “Yes! If they are Christians, then absolutely! But non-Christians, nope! The unsaved do unsaved things.”

    So, is the Bible contradicting itself? Nope! If you look at WHO they are writing to, you see that James is talking to people who are cheating on God with the world (James 4:4). Now Jesus’ Matthew 7 principle applies. The recipients of James’ letter had no business judging ’cause they had big ol’ planks falling out of their own eyes.

    If someone implies Mrs. Gore she has no business judging, aren’t they themselves judging her?

    • Well done! I love the verses you shared.
      If we don’t admonish one another, we don’t love one another.

      And some of us get admonished LOTS of times (my husband is also my pastor).

      Thanks so much for your comment!

  20. Thank you for renewing my faith that there is a man out there that belongs to God first and foremost that He has set aside for me. It’s so hard as a single mother to remember that.

    • Bless you, Randi! I will pray for you tonight, that regardless of what His plan is for your singleness, God will surround you with strong and godly men who will protect and shepherd you in the faith.

      You walk a difficult road, but you are not alone – never alone!

  21. WOW. Your post brought tears to my eyes. Thank you sincerely, from an engaged college student who is surrounded by constant filth yet striving to live for the Lord. This reminds me how thankful I am of my loving and God-fearing father, grandfathers, brother and fiancee. Thanks for furthering my conviction to NOT watch this movie (or read shades of grey). πŸ™‚

    • Bless your heart – I know how hard it is in college, and I’m praying for God’s grace to keep you on the strait and narrow. The best news is that, once married and settled into post-college life, things become much simpler. For instance, I’m back in the nursery rhymes stage with my preschoolers and it is LOVELY. πŸ™‚

      Congratulations on your upcoming marriage – God bless you both!

  22. Yep…one LawGiver Who takes this sin so seriously that He says if your eye causes you to sin, pluck it out. I don’t think she is “judging”…she is just agreeing with God’s judgement already given thousands of years ago. I agree as well and pray that the Holy Spirit would convict where needed and the Father would bless all of His faithful men because of the grace Jesus won for them. Without grace – we would know no such men.

    • Beautifully stated! I love what you said about the Holy Spirit convicting where needed, and the grace of God through Jesus Christ making these men what they are – spot on.

      Thanks for sharing!

  23. Thank you for this. I’ve been equally disturbed by the popularity of the “Fifty Shades” books and how my church going girl friends are not embarrassed to put it out on Facebook that they are reading such trash. Pornography doesn’t do either gender any good…

  24. …..’nough said! Thank you for standing up for what you believe in and not being ashamed to say so! Christians everywhere should do the same! Thx!

  25. Brooke – Let us not confuse ”judgement” with healthy evaluation, assessment, or the general aknowledgement of knowing/seeing right from wrong and calling it like it is. The word judgemental is thrown around too loosely in the Christian sect, and way too often keeps the truth from being spoken and brought to ”light”…which only accomodates and plays into the devil’s hand.
    Interesting here to note: If we indeed are to ignore simple recognition of right and wrong and refer to it as being judgemental, then one CAN NOT escape being ”judgemental” to call someone ”judgemental”

    ”The lips of the righteous nourish many, but fools die for the lack of judgement.” – Proverbs 10:21

  26. I am a 21 year old female and I refuse to see Magic Mike. All i could think about was being married someday and my husband wanting to see a strip movie. I would be so mad. I don’t want to do exactly what I wouldn’t want him to do. I think you described what a man is greatly, and I hope there are more and more that become that.

    • I hope so, too – we need to work hard in our churches to teach what the Bible says and to pray for the grace of God to fall on us – that’s the only way men are made holy.

      Hang in there – it was hard being 21 nine years ago…I honestly can’t imagine being 21 today! God bless and keep you.

  27. This was an amazing & truthful post! Jesus is coming soon, I am SURE of it more & more as the world gets more wicked every year!! By the way, John Wayne’s longtime stuntman was my cousin!! (3rd cousin, but still…I’m a HUGE John Wayne fan). Please Jesus! COME GET US SOONER THAN LATER!!

  28. I love the pictures of the real guys but wonder if many of the women on here actually saw the movie? It’s actually sort of depressing and paints a very “real” picture of what life as a stripper can be and all the ills it can lead too, in the end the character leaves stripping because he does want to be the sort of real man you speak about.

    In all fairness I am an actress and look at it as a filmmaker but in that respect I thought it was very tastefully done, and far from pornography as some ladies on here asserted.

    • I understand this is not pornography and shouldn’t be labeled as such…
      but it is awfully close, and for Christian women who admit to adhere to a certain standard of living and thinking as followers of Jesus Christ, it is probably not something we (professing believers) should watch without first giving it some serious and honest thought.

      My point is that Christian women would flip OUT if their men saw a movie like this starring females (even if had a good moral in the end). It has created an unfair and unkind double standard.

      This post was written to a specific audience, women who believe what the Bible says and claim to follow Christ. For those who don’t do either, I hope it displayed how great that life in Christ can be.

      God bless you – and good luck with your acting!

  29. Thank you for your article, you did a great job of putting into words what I myself had been thinking. My patience on this subject had worn thin and all I could come up with was not very kind. I have been so disappointed in the mature women of Christ who have made such crude comments about the actors in this movie. I cannot imagine these same women putting up for a second with their husbands (or church leaders) making similar comments about female actors. Thank you again.

  30. My husband will love this post! I went to see this movie with some pressure from a friend, but I won’t lie and say that I wasn’t convinced a little too easily. Anyway, only two words can properly sum up how I felt afterwards….scum bag! That’s exactly the words I told my hubby when I got home. He wasn’t mad at me, but I could tell he was a little disappointed. Striving for purity in our marriage has been an ongoing battle that the Lord has so graciously brought us through, and I felt like a total hypocrite after seeing that movie. NOTHING in my spirit or mind felt good about it, and besides that, the acting was attrocious! Christian ladies, I promise you, save yourself the trouble and skip it. And also, thanks to the author for having enough dignity and honor to write this post…I did not feel judged at all, but rather very loved by this sister in Christ! Thanks girl!

    • Heather,
      I can totally relate! I thought it would be “fun” to go see this movie, “hey, I’m single and all my friends are going.” But I hated it, and I felt yucky they whole time. I really wish I would have opted out.
      Even worse, I help with the youth group at church! But, I’ve used it as a lesson. I told them that I went and I let them know how terrible it was and we talked about all the reasons we shouldn’t indulge in films such as Magic Mike. So, I suppose I’ve learned from my mistake, and hopefully my teens have too. I’m so grateful for God’s constant call to purity and chastity.

  31. Having not seen Magic Mike, I don’t know much about it. *shrugs* Not a whole lot of interest either, but, that probably has more to do with my being far too busy to want to sit and watch any movie. πŸ˜‰

    However, I would be careful holding up John Wayne as a comparison for the “decent” man. John Wayne, while he did make some pretty cool movies, was a well known bigot, and racist, and was not shy about sharing his white supremist views. Your personal examples of decent, honest, hard working men, are far better examples for people, than the Duke.

    • Thank you for your comment, as it is something that I would love to clear up for anyone else who shares your thoughts…
      my surprise at this picture of the young (and very handsome) John Wayne and the caption I shared on Facebook are what inspired this post in the first place…
      he was just a tongue-in-cheek intro and conclusion to a post about the godly men in my life.

      It was also a gentle way to remind everyone that there are PLENTY of wholesome movies out there that star handsome men…without resorting to the “Magic Mike” hype. The “dignity” I mention concerning John Wayne has more to do with the types of films he made rather than his personal life.
      (plus I never dreamed anyone would actually READ this!) πŸ™‚

  32. Great post! I love dance and Changing Tatum is an amazing dancer. However, this needs to be so far off my radar screen as a Christian. Even the commercials show way more than anybody needs to see. Thanks for stepping up! (Get that?) πŸ™‚

  33. I think that what you post is true and that’s men should live up to these standards. But you also post this like every Christian woman seeing it doesn’t know what a real man is. I am a Christian woman and my father, grandfathers, uncles, cousins, and many of my close guy friends are of the same caliber as the men you have pictured here. Does that mean that I can’t go see a movie? Or does it meanthat because I want to see THIS movie that I don’t know what a real man is? I’m single anxious have a pretty long list of things I want in a husband (many of which were in your list), so, while I appreciate your post I feel that you are saying that any woman that sees this or wants to see this doesn’t know what a man is. There’s nothing in this world that couldcheapen my view of the amazing men in my life that I listed above, or really of men like that in general.

    • That’s not what I’m saying at all, and I’m sorry that you feel frustrated by what you read.
      What I am trying to get out there is simply this: the harm in seeing this movie is that it creates an extremely unfair double standard.
      It doesn’t matter if I love dance…
      or if I love a good night out with my girlfriends…
      or if I love a good storyline (which I am sure this movie has)…

      There are plenty of other movies and avenues of entertainment, that will not harm or disrespect our men or compromise their trust in us.

      It is so hard to not be conformed to the pattern of this world, but it is always worth it to do hard things and to abstain from what looks pleasing. I am the first to say that what you watch or don’t watch is a matter of your own conviction…
      but as another commenter shared, “I love dance and Channing Tatum is an amazing dancer. However, this needs to be so far off my radar screen as a Christian.”

      God bless you as you seek this out. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

  34. Beautifully written. I too have an incredible sexy husband who loves God first then his family. That beats a stripper movie guy any day. I’m saddened by the amount of Christian women who think its harmless to see, and yet would flip out if their husband saw a striptease. So sad. Please help us, Lord. Thank you for writing a great article.

  35. I myself almost went to see this movie. My friends wanted to see it and I love going to the movies, but I did kind of feel uncomfortable since it was about male strippers. I talked myself into thinking “its just a movie” and “its harmless fun” and “its a comedy”. I even equated it in my mind to the movie Pretty Woman. What stopped me from going to see it was when I found myself not wanting to tell my husband what the movie was about. i had made a big deal in the past about strippers being someone’s son/daughter and how we should not exploit them. Even though it was a movie, I found myself hesitant to go because the selling point of the movie was handsome looking men taking off their clothes. I love a good redemption story- someone changing their life around, but that is not what is drawing people to the theatre. I am so glad to see others are thinking along the same lines as I am.

    • Thank you for this very honest and relatable comment – I appreciate your transparency so much. I think it will help a lot of people who feel the same way you initially did (which is so easy to understand, as everyone is saying this movie is great!)…
      but you stopped and listened to your gut. Thanks so much for sharing.

      p.s. I’m a sucker for a good redemption story, too – I can’t watch “A Christmas Carol” without bawling. I love me some Scrooge.
      (and here’s where I’ll go ahead and admit I’m talking about the Muppet version).

  36. Made me cry. I often entertain fears of how my children are going to turn out and what, if any, good future will be available to them in this unholy society. Your post is a wonderful reminder to me that all hope is not lost, and an encouragement to continue laying a path of a godly heritage for their sakes. I too, know some pretty wonderful Christian men. What an encoragement to my heart today!

  37. Thanks so much for this! I’d never heard of this movie before reading your post, but I’m often uncomfortable when male OR female nudity is on the screen because I’ve always thought that that was something that, no matter what modern society says, is something for your spouse alone. The human form is beautiful, yes, but just because something is beautiful doesn’t mean that its beauty should be for all eyes. But perhaps that’s just my naivete talking?

    Anyway, thanks for the reminder that there ARE loving, caring, and godly men out there. I think I need to be more appreciative of the ones around me than I have been.

  38. I’m an 18 year old Christian girl … and reading this made me think a lot. For one, I realized I’ve been acting like the complete opposite of what I say I am. I’ve grown up as a Chirstian but barely anything I do shows it. I rarely attend church, many of my close, close friends are athiests, and my own actions make me feel like I’ve completely estranged myself from God. My own boyfriend, who I’ve been dating for 4 years and love very much, has openly told me of his disbeliefs in Christianity and of his explorations with other religions. It’s taken a toll on me.. I don’t feel good anymore. Being around people like this makes me feel like maybe I’m slowly becoming less and less… worth anything? I can’t explain it. But I’ve begun to think I’ve permanently changed… I’ve permantly tainted myself… no matter how many times I ask for forgiveness. I know I need to surround myself with people who will bring me up, not down, but I care about them too much to leave them. And I know this is a very, very personal comment and it’s a little weird for me to just display it all on the internet but.. it’s something that has been eating away at me. And reading this.. and seeing people who are good and close to God the way I want to be.. broke me down crying in front of the computer. I know what I need to do, but I don’t know what I CAN do. I need to surround myself with the people who will help me be better, but can I just ditch the people who I genuinely love and who I know love me too? I’ve tried to talk myself into thinking that maybe being around my athiest friends and boyfriend is a good thing.. that maybe I’m helping them the way I need others to help me. Maybe, if they are around me, they will rethink their views and reconsider Christianity. But I can’t kid myself. I’m not anything close to what I need to be. My actions have become anything but Godly and I’m getting worse. Well, I’m very sorry to post this.. I wish I had something to say that was inspiring or at least a little happier.. but if anyone has advice or a similar experience they think would be helpful, please share.

    • Dear Amber,
      I was not planning on approving or responding to any more comments…
      until I read this one.
      You touched (and broke) my heart with your transparency, and I am so humbled that you have come to me with your questions and feelings.
      I would love it so much if you would take a moment to read this post:
      It will point you chiefly to the gospel, and to the message found in Romans chapter 1, that basically says that we are MADE for God. Creation proclaims that to us, and our souls, deep down, know it. Therefore, we have one purpose on this earth: to glorify the One who made us, and to enjoy Him. We do that by faith in Christ, followed by a life of obedience to the Word of God. Great joy is found in this life, although the way is difficult.
      When we fail to fulfill that purpose, as you have described, it leaves us dry…dead inside…confused…
      and so my greatest advice to you would be to focus on the gospel message of Jesus Christ. Read the entire book of John. Think about it. Dwell on it. Preach it to yourself. All while praying for God to help you…
      If you seek Him, with all your heart, you will find Him.
      I know that sounds very mysterious, and maybe even mystical, but it is actually the truest and most simple thing in this world.

      We live in a Christian culture that has made what you are describing very common, especially for college-age students; we go to church all our lives, without necessarily LIVING the Christian life. Sunday might be “church day” but the rest of the week we live for ourselves…this completely misses the mark and is a very watered-down version of what the life-changing gospel is supposed to be. It took me many years to realize that, although I was a professing Christian, the way I viewed my life and the world was not very Biblical, at all. God has turned my life upside down as a result…but I’ve NEVER been happier or more satisfied.

      I would encourage you to start at the gospel today, and then go to a good Bible-teaching church as soon as possible, and find a pastor and his wife who can personally help you figure things out. We NEED the body of Christ. We are not meant to walk this path alone. I am so glad you are starting here at my blog; the next step is to find believers in your area.

      God bless you, Amber. You’re not alone.

      • Thank you so much. Thank you for this blog and your advice. I’m planning on catapulting myself back into the Christian way of life and you were the woman who helped me make that decision. Keep going, because whether they choose to let you know or not, people like me see you and are inspired. Thanks again.

        P.S. One thing I’m proud of- I didn’t go see Magic Mike! πŸ™‚

  39. Glad I didn’t see this movie, no desire to see it because I have the perfect man at home!! REAL men do exist!! I not only found a man with every attribute listed above, but I was lucky enough to MARRY him 4 months ago! And for those of you over 40 who say there are no good men left, it’s not true, I found one and you can too.

    His name is Brian Massey, and I am so proud of him!!

    Karen Massey

  40. Completely agree! Loved your list of attributes of the real “sexy” and “manly” man. As I was scrolling through the pics of the godly men in your life, I was excited to see your bridal pic. I didn’t know you are Matt’s sister! My husband and I served at Riverview Baptist with your brother and sister-in-law. Small world πŸ™‚

    • So funny!! I wondered a couple of days ago, by your last name, if you were related to Mike. Turns out you are married to him! Matt just loved you guys, and spoke so highly of you. I can’t wait to tell him this turn of events – he so LOVES that I put his picture on my one blog post that went viral (not).
      I also remember Mike from my youth group days in Beggs – I think he did a couple of events for our youth minister, Mat McIntosh. Anyway, yes! Very small world. I’m so glad to have connected with you here (and so glad you are liking the homeschool posts – I’ll be writing more in that area soon!)

      • Haha! Ministry circles, especially Southern Baptists, in Oklahoma make for lots of connections! We have so many fond memories and sweet friends from our time at Riverview. I’m looking forward to more homeschooling posts!!! Blessings!

  41. I think I commented on this post the first time I read it…the first time I found Mrs. Gore’s Diary (like many, I’m sure). I have not stopped reading since and I have not stopped enjoying your writing since. Thanks for speaking up. Thanks for putting so perfectly what the tongue-tied rest of us were trying to say. It doesn’t matter how many times I read this post, I cry every time. I cry because it’s moving. I cry because I’m happy for the manly men and their families mentioned here. But I also cry for those that don’t get it. Thanks, Mrs. Gore. Please don’t stop writing…or speaking your mind!

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